Over the years I've discovered that there are certain attributes that inspire peoples confidence and loyalty in their leaders. Whether you're the leader of your children, your team, or your organization avoiding these 'no-no's' will help you increase your effectiveness as a communicator, better facilitate positive growth and change, and foster loyal relationship building.
1. Avoid 'always' and 'never' statements. "You always do this, or you never do that" are communication killers.
2. Don't approach others when you're negative emotions are high; be patient and wait until you've calmed down.
3. If you have a genuine complaint, don't go straight for the kill; give some positive affirmations or observations first.
4. Lose the attitude. People quickly lose respect for those that appear to be 'talking-down' to them.
5. You aren't always right so admit when your wrong; don't be that guy.
6. Humility goes a long way toward gaining the trust and attention of others. Do some fearless character inventory and assess this aspect of your personality.
7. Never correct others in public, especially if you're the leader! If you want others to listen to, and respect you, you must first respect them. Save your corrections for behind closed doors.
8. Don't interrupt. Wait until the person is finished speaking before giving your opinions and/or observations. Interrupting says: "My opinions are more important than yours"
10. Be real. Others are drawn to those who can be who they are no matter who's in the room. No one admires pretense.